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What’s Up with Fear? by Sally Huss

"Fear lacks support from those who trust life."

(Happy Musings is a newspaper feature syndicated by King Features that I create each day to remind us all that “Life is wonderful!.”

 

Let’s get to the bottom of this statement:.  Fear lacks support from those who trust life.  I’m using here the word “life” for anything in your vocabulary that covers the same big, broad concept.  It might be “God”, “Spirit”, “Source”, Divine Love”, “Infinite Intelligence,” etc.  To me, it is just simpler for this purpose to say “life.”

Now to define “fear” – what is it?  There are two kinds of fear.  The first is that animal fear that we all have that protects us.  If there is fire, we run from it.  If someone tries to take something that is ours, we guard it, etc.  But it’s the psychological fear that does the damage in our lives.  This fear is hard to define, because it is the lack of something -- the lack of knowledge or love or something else.  And because it is something that is not, it does not exist.  And this leaves us with the truth that there is really only life!

What is there not to trust, if there is only life?  I’m sure if you looked back in your experiences you would find instances in which life, in the form of people or circumstances, came through in just the nick of time or solved a problem that there did not seem to be a solution to.  Life’s resources are way beyond our knowing, but not beyond our trusting.  Life holds our hand as we move along.

To live fearlessly is to trust life.  It is not to trust life to make things happen the way we want them to, but to trust life in letting things happen the way they are supposed to.

I solved fear at a certain point in my life by doing just that – trusting life.  A tennis court is a microcosm of everyday life and practically everything can be explained by viewing what happens on a tennis court.  When I was a young, competitive player I thought, acted and reacted like every young kid who played.  I tried hard, but was fearful that I would lose, so I worried most of the match.  Then the light dawned.  I gave up the results.  I pretended that the match was over when I walked on the court and that I had lost.  Since I feared losing, I pretended I had lost already and this eliminated the fear.  In doing so, I played fearlessly and in the process, played better tennis and enjoyed it immensely. 

I remember reading that each time the great Samurai warriors went into battle they expected to die.  In that way they had no fear of dying and performed at their best. 

In a strange way that is really what we all want – to carry on our lives fearlessly.  Yep, don’t give fear another thought.  Trust life and be done with it!  

 

Smiles,

Sally

“Life is wonderful! Don’t forget it.”

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Have What You Want by Sally Huss

"Try to do this for this and not this for that and you will get what you want in the beginning and the end."

(Happy Musings is a newspaper feature syndicated by King Features that I create each day to remind us all that “Life is wonderful!”  I offer it here to brighten your day.  Please share it with your friends.)

 

Yes, to do this for this is the ideal.  And, you might say, “That’s impossible!  I have results I want.”  True too.  But I have found that to do this for this, yields tremendous results and sometimes even better than those you might have planned on.

 

I find it easier to explain things in terms of something concrete.  Take tennis.  When you play a tennis match in a tournament, the goal is to win the match in order to move along in the tournament and eventually get the silver cup or the big, multi-zillion dollar check.  So it seems.

 

But as you play the match, you have the ball to deal with and it is connected to another player who also has the same goal in mind.  How do you get the ball to cooperate in your great scheme?  What about giving up the scheme?  What about just playing the game by focusing on the ball and letting the results take care of themselves?

 

Results are results and they are none of our business.  We can aim toward a goal, but our attention needs to be squarely on what we are doing.  In tennis, I have found that the ball is very aware when you do not give it your full attention.  In other words if your mind strays to the results you want, the ball finds you fickle, opportunistic and manipulative and in turns rebels by going off in an unplanned direction.  But the strange thing is the most fun on a tennis court during a match is to give your full attention to the ball.  It’s the fun of it!  It’s the creative aspect of the game – the play.  Without preconceived ideas you are free to invent ways and places to hit the ball you might never have dreamed of.

 

Now when you think of doing this for this and not this for that, you can get down to the real this that you want.  Again, in tennis it might be to win.  But what is it you want out of winning?  HAPPINESS!  Generally people are happier when they win then when they lose.  But if you are happy when you play and are not holding your breath to see if you can be happy because you win, you get what you really want in the beginning and in the end!  On top of which, you actually perform better, whether it’s tennis or anything else, when you are happy.

 

This concept can be applied to any game or any aspect in life.  Have what you really want first – the feeling.  No waiting required!

 

 

Smiles,

Sally

“Life is wonderful! Don’t forget it.”

 

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Loving Kindness, Got some? by Sally Huss

"Loving kindness spreads like wildfire when given a little spark."

(Happy Musings is a newspaper feature syndicated by King Features that I create each day to remind us all that “Life is wonderful!”  I offer it here to brighten your day.  Please share it with your friends.)

Do not underestimate the power of loving kindness.  Poor humanity, it’s not very developed as yet.  We’re not far beyond our animal nature.  That’s the one that is me, me, me – fearful and selfish.  But our next step, I believe, is to just reach a level of “loving kindness” universally.  It doesn’t seem like asking very much, but it’s what we need to do now – to operate with loving kindness in all our activities. 

I remember as a young person being in the presence of some very wise people.  And, it was their opinion that loving kindness was humanity’s next level of evolvement. It takes a long while for everyone to get on the same page, but that’s the page we need to get on.  As we can see from what goes on around the world and even in this country there is much to be done to achieve this fairly elementary level of brotherly love. 

A few years ago there was a clever ad on TV from the Almond Association.  They were trying to bring awareness to the fact that there were a lot of almonds to be had and we should help out.  A man stood up to his waist in almonds and held up a can of almonds, stating, “All we ask is one can a week.”

That’s what we need to do for each other on this subject – “All we ask is to act with loving kindness.” 

The drive and ambition to get ahead sometimes leaves kindness in its wake.  We might be benefiting ourselves in a greater way by putting kindness first.  To get ahead, might just be to take a step back into kindness.  It does spread like wildfire when given a little spark.

Smiles,

Sally

“Life is wonderful! Don’t forget it.”

 

I would like to add you to my friends’ list.  Please make a comment if you like.  I am trying to connect with as many like-minded people as possible. 

(To view my gallery of original art and peek at my extensive line of bright and happy products, including THE HAPPY BOOK, bibs, nursery wall décor, totes and purses, and gifts with thoughtful thoughts, go to:  www.sallyhuss.com.)

Email: sally@sallyhuss.com

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c 2008 Sally Huss